‘Love means never having to say I am sorry’– this quote may be famous; however, we at Impala Flora disagree. The ability to pluck up the courage to sincerely apologise is one of the most important skills you will learn in life – and it especially becomes handy with the people you love.
It turns out that people who are able to bite the bullet and apologise are emotionally healthier than those who can’t. A study at MacEwan University in Edmonton found that people with low self-esteem feel worse after a conflict and are less likely to apologise for their role in the conflict. On the other hand, there is a strong correlation between good self-esteem and the ability to apologise. A University of Illinois study also found that people who apologise seem to fare better financially than those who don’t. Are you still putting it off? Then remember what William Shakespeare said, ‘Cowards die many times before their death.’ What he means is that putting off on apologising is more painful than actually apologising.
Of course, apologising can be terrifying. It is the type of thing people lose sleep over and continuously procrastinate on. If you are preparing for the difficult, awkward moment of apologising, consider taking a gift with you. Some great options include flower arrangements, edible gifts and hampers. Taking along a peace offering will show your sincerity and commitment to resolving the conflict.
Once you have your gift ready, be sure you deliver your apology in the correct way. The right way to say ‘I’m sorry’ is to state clearly what you are apologising for. Don’t minimise the situation or simply glance over what you did wrong. Write down and practice your apology so that you make sure you do not miss anything.